The child psychology study constitutes my belief that nature and nurture plays an important role in every child development and rearing. In nature, the developmental of children is the product of genetic inheritance, biology and maturation and it is the primary influence in them. In contrast, nurture broadly construed for children’s experiences including parenting, education, learning, cultural influence that primarily responsible for a child’s development. Each child developed according to his or her inner timetable, regardless of learning or experience. And we are the product of an ongoing interaction between the influence of our personal life experiences and the contribution of our unique genetic endowment, within the culture we live. In fact, I believe both genetic and environment influences work together in dynamic ways over the course of development to shape the architecture of a child’s developing brain. I have started to repent all my past wrongdoings through reflection and adopt active coaching, sharing of knowledge, active learning and listening with my sons and making learning more fun in an effective and efficient adequate manner. It is crucial to practice self continuum reflections and as well recognizing some of the disadvantages of the common punishments when I try to modify my own and sons’ behaviour:
1. Cease corporal punishment. It will mislead and infer that violence is an accepted method of disciplining a misbehaving child. It may hurt and harm my children emotionally and physically. Bearing in mind that there is no quick fix in the process of molding a child for acceptable good behavior.
2. Stop Verbal Punishment. No scolding, shouting or yelling. Verbal and overt anger may cause insulting, threatening, demoralize of my children’s self-esteem and confidence, and the showing of resentment that elicited negative emotional response e.g. anxiety.
3. Being a good role model myself as children learn best through adult demonstration like self control over agitation, staying calmly, being kind, firm and patient.
Last but not least, through my observation in past few months, Angel 1 has shown more maturing in his emotional and cognitive growth and that he is less impulsive when he is facing challenges or changes. He seemed more happy, calm and has become more organized in his daily chores without my involvement e.g. packing his own school bag, doing his homework with more concentration and cooking small meals for himself or his brother. Before I end this sharing, I received a piece of good news from MOE that he has passed his primary school leaving exams and qualified him for normal academic stream in secondary school start from year 2010. My heartfelt thanks to all.
from the desk of
Blessedmum
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)
